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Some men see things as they are and ask why

Published on December 5, 2015 12:00 AM EST
some men see things and ask why george bernard shaw

Some men see things as they are and say,’ why?’ I dream things that never were and say, ‘why not?’.” 

Negative thoughts can be paralyzing and make you your own worst enemy. As I began to take notice of my thoughts and how I spoke, I realized how negative I was about most things. How I felt was influencing my food choices.

Be aware of your thoughts and judgements

I was very judgmental and opinionated about things I have yet to try or experience. I also had no structure or strategy for how to reach my goal. I had no vision, no ideal, and no idea what I had to do. I knew I wanted to lose weight but I could not articulate how. I felt powerless and somewhat depressed. Two months later, I caught a break. I got an email from my insurance company to renew my policy and the receptionist who sent it closed the email with a George Bernard Shaw quote:

some men see things and ask why george bernard shaw

Some men see things as they are and say,’ why?’ I dream things that never were and say, ‘why not?’.” 

Think about what you’re thinking about

In the weeks that followed I asked myself, “why not be happy?  Why not stop being judgmental?  Why not stop being negative? Why not try new things?” I also thought about my past and took responsibility for my poor choices and their consequences, while embracing the lessons learned from these experiences.

You’re producing what you’re thinking

I owned my mistakes, and acknowledged that I enabled people to distract me from creating a plan of action by being consumed with activities not inline with a healthy lifestyle. My past insecurities prevented me from self reflecting upon and self regulating my behavior. I now know that the only things I can control are my actions, and placing my hopes on the acts of others hoping they will guess what I’m thinking or wishing for is foolish. Should you avoid certain people? No, be in the moment, don’t waste your time judging others from afar, and instead engage with all people who come in contact with you.

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Say what you really mean

Focus on expressing yourself clearly, and when not in agreement with an individual, respectfully disagree. If someone uses words you find offensive as you begin your new lifestyle, remind yourself that what was said is not what bothers you, but it is your opinion of what was said that bothers you. You have control over your opinions, use patience and silence in such instances. I have learned to express my emotions in a constructive and positive way. Instead of saying “hell no” I opt for “no, thank you.” Same outcome, less stress. Expressing my feelings in a constructive way, regardless of my emotional state, is ongoing work for me. I think that being in the moment, and not being judgmental of others or myself is a good starting point.

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