25 Best Books To Improve Your Sex Life and Relationships
January 26, 2023 9:00 AM EST | 10 min read
Looking for an awesome list of sex books to improve your sex life and intimate relationships?
Here are some of our favorite sex books!
Knowledge is the key to many things in life, and books are an amazing source of that knowledge others want to share with us.
When we read a book, we download the knowledge that others have experienced into our brains.
This process is lacking in the areas of relationships and sex.
Most people believe we can naturally have the best relationship and the best sex.
These people are missing the boat big time.
There is a wealth of knowledge out there in books to help you improve your sex life and, yes, your relationship, too.
Unforgettable Books To Improve Your Sex Life
Even if you think your relationship and sex life are great, they will not stay there on their own.
You need to be constantly improving and adding excitement to your relationship.
Now that doesn’t mean just going out and picking up a book of different sexual positions.
There are many deeper and more meaningful ways to improve your relationship.
Below is a listing of books that I recommend to individuals or couples wanted to keep improving their relationships.
You can also check out these books on relationships for happy couples.
1. Sexy Challenges Sacred and Sensual Experiences for Lovers by Rob Alex, Ph.D.
This book gives you 50 great ways to add a little more play, fun, and metaphysical approaches to your lovemaking.
Sexy Challenges is not just a book for reading but one for action.
After reading a challenge, you follow the plan to create that sacred and sensual experience for you and your partner.
The beauty of each challenge is that it allows you to change it up a bit each and every time.
This book gives you different suggestions to transform the experience the next time you participate.
So while this book holds 50 challenges, we can turn those 50 into unlimited experiences.
2. Changing Reality by Serge Kahili King
Serge Kahili King uses his Hawaiian shaman roots and the ancient love-based tradition of Huna to help us mold our life into a piece of art.
We can use this book for everything: from your health to your happiness, and yes – to improve your sex life.
This book will help you on the path of improving everything in your life, starting with the most important person: YOU!
3. Sex Matters by OSHO
This book gives you a grand overview of how important sex is to our world.
It takes the act of sex out of just the physical plane and offers you a more spiritual and natural view of how important it is in our relationships.
Osho has a whimsical style of storytelling that will have you chuckling as you read his teachings.
4. Love and Awakening by John Wellwood
5. Richer Together by Dr. Rob and Janelle Alex, Ph.D.
You need to understand that your relationship has a business side to it.
They interviewed 23 couples in this book, and they share their secrets not only to a successful business but a successful relationship, too.
From small-town shop owners to self-help gurus, this book is full of great suggestions to keep you thriving in business – and in love.
6. Secrets of a Soulful Marriage by Jim Sharon and Ruth Sharon
7. 101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn
This book started a revolution in playfulness in the sex lives of couples and still is one of the biggest gifts young couples receive for weddings and anniversaries.
Laura Corn has crafted elegant and pleasure-filled plays for couples to act out, making them stars in their relationship.
Using the thrill of anticipation, 101 Nights of Great Sex will have you putting amazing attention into your intimate play.
8. The Guide To Getting It On by Paul Joannides
The Guide To Getting it On is an encyclopedia of all things sexual.
With constant revisions, this book keeps getting thicker and thicker.
It covers everything from sex with disabilities to the history of sex and popular culture.
With a humorous approach, this is a great educational tool for anyone.
We have given our sons this book so they can learn about all types of sexuality and sexual fun.
Awesome Books To Improve Your Sex Life
9. Transcendent Sex by Jenny Wade, Ph.D.
This book opened my eyes to the spiritual and metaphysical world of sex, creating a lifelong learning process for myself.
In this book, you will discover how ordinary people can open a portal to different spiritual realms via lovemaking.
After reading this book, I realized amazing things happen if you are more present in your lovemaking.
10. Speaking Kind Words by Rob Alex Ph.D. and Janelle Alex Ph.D.
Communication is a huge topic in relationships.
In this book, you learn how just changing a few words in your vocabulary can set your relationship on fire.
When we speak the same words repeatedly to our partners, they lose their importance.
This book gives you the tools to change those words, so your partner listens again.
Saying “I love you” is powerful – but what if you tell your partner you adore them or that you honor them?
This is the same message with a different feel each time.
11. Our Bucket List Adventures: A Journal for Couples, by Ashley Kusi and Marcus Kusi
With this couples journal, you’ll be able to create unique bucket list goals you want to achieve together, journal your bucket list adventure memories together, and have a place to put your favorite photo that captures your bucket list goal experience.
Besides, the book includes engaging questions you can use as conversation starters, bucket list ideas for couples, and bucket list journaling pages to write your bucket list experiences.
12. Little Moments of Love, by Catana Chetwynd
Little Moments of Love is an adorable collection of comics detailing the simple, precious, silly, everyday moments that make up a relationship.
Whether you read them alone or with your significant other, it’s a nice collection to have at hand any time you’re feeling down or need a reminder to be as loving as you can be.
13. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary Chapman
In this book, Dr. Gary Chapman shares his proven approach to showing and receiving love that will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your significant other.
The book aims to help you discover how to keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the complexities of life.
14. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
Based on groundbreaking research and brain science, Come as You Are, explains why and how women’s sexuality works.
The book seeks to help the reader understand and learn how to influence the factors that affect a woman’s sexual well-being.
15. Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic & the Domestic, by Esther Perel
In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel provides a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex.
The author explains how our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to the erotic desire for both men and women.
16. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kerner
In this book, Ian Kerner offers techniques and philosophy for a healthier, more fulfilling sex life for her and him.
The author seeks to help men understand how to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again.
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17. Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships, by Christopher Ryan
Sex at Dawn is a provocative, entertaining book that challenges conventional wisdom about sex, monogamy, marriage, and family.
The book re-evaluates human sexual behavior.
18. The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire, by David Deida
This classic guide to male spirituality provides a practical guide for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom.
It seeks to help men cultivate trust and develop the best versions of themselves in a dynamic world.
19. Guide To Getting It On: Unzipped, by Paul Joannides Psy.D
The Guide To Getting It On is a down-to-earth and fun-to-read book for people who want to have fantastic sex.
It contains information about sex written by people who have done the homework.
20. Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, by Kevin Leman
In Sheet Music, Dr. Kevin Leman offers an actionable guide to sex for married and engaged couples.
The book has a warm and friendly tone to make it easier for married couples to discuss sex and intimacy.
21. Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way, by Nerve.com
Position of the Day contains 366 hand-picked erotic scenarios – one for each day of the year.
Illustrated with anatomically correct drawn figures, the positions run the lusty gamut from plausible to creative to Honey.
22. What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire, by Daniel Bergner
In What Do Women Want? renowned journalist Daniel Bergner disseminates the latest scientific research and paints an unprecedented portrait of female lust: the triggers, the fantasies, the mind-body connection, and the reasons behind the loss of libido.
23. 50 Great Myths of Human Sexuality, by Pepper Schwartz
This book seeks to dispel commonly accepted myths and misunderstandings surrounding human sexuality.
The authors aim to help readers understand how to have a safe, pleasurable, healthy sex life.
24. The Psychology of Human Sexuality, by Justin J. Lehmiller
This book provides an extensive overview of human sexual behavior from a biopsychosocial perspective.
Written from a sex-positive perspective, the book covers topics such as gender and sexual orientation, relationships, sexual behaviors, sexual difficulties and solutions, and much more.
25. Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters, by Dr. Juli Slattery
Rethinking Sexuality challenges and equips Christians to think and act biblically and compassionately in matters of sexuality.
It equips you to share the love and grace of Jesus as you encounter the pain of sexual brokenness—your own or someone else’s.
What other books to improve your sex life would you add to the list?
Okay, I have given you a list of books I suggest to help improve your sex life, but there are many more books out there to read and experience.
Get to your library, local bookstore, or online and find something to help your relationship keep learning and thriving.
A new book on a shelf is a beautiful thing, but a book that is highlighted and has notes in the margins is one that is put into action.
Those are the books I love!
Read on, lovers.
The quest for knowledge is sexy.
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