I am convinced that more success is lost due to fear than to any other factor. We know that we must work hard to win but ultimately we must face the truth that if success was easy everyone would be doing it. Every measure of success comes with a dark side and it is the willingness to face that dark side that will enable us to experience victory. Consider these fears and ask yourself if you are holding back because of these fears.
5 fears that are blocking you from expressing your gifts
Fear of Failure
The most common fear that holds us back is this fear of failure. We know how to do our current job well. It might be sucking the life out of us but we know it and it is a guaranteed paycheck. Our family will eat and have a roof over their heads as long as we don’t rock the boat. If I risk showing off my gifts and going to do something that gives my soul life I might lose all of that. Will my family reject my dreams? Will I still have a job? Will my friends laugh at me when I fail? These fears should give us pause. Fear is not bad in itself. Consider this fear an opportunity to discuss the possibilities with your employer or any others impacted by your choice. Work to minimize the risk and it might help to get you over the fear. Also keep your ears open. The truth may be that others are waiting to see you succeed and will offer other help or investment to allow you to excel at your new endeavor.
Fear of success
I often see this one with the men and women I serve at the Gospel Rescue Mission and in previous experience at other missions. Often these men and women have hidden talents and they begin to develop them. Just as they are on the verge of being discovered and maybe able to make a living from these talents they self implode. When this happens I scratch my head and wonder what just happened. From multiple conversations it becomes clear that they did not feel like the deserved the success because of other choices they had made in their lives. Their self image has been so shattered that any applause is instantly rejected and they are reminded that they once failed. Secondarily, I might be willing to walk along a fallen tree as a balance beam in the woods. I don’t think much of it. But it is unlikely that I would use the edge of a five story building in the same way even though it might offer me more width to work with. The same thing is true in life. If I fall from my job as an entry level fry cook than that is easy. But if I fall after I have the district manager it is much more difficult to rebound. Consider this fear an opportunity to build up your own self worth. Take stock of your talents and abilities. You are worthy or you would not have these talents in the first place. Yes, you may fall from a greater height if you risk success, but oh what a ride it will be. Think of it as an adrenaline rush.
Fear of rejection
This fear too is common. I have this incredible talent but maybe the world does not need that talent right now. We use this one to justify doing nothing and living a soulless life. Yes you will be rejected. Actors know this better than most professions. When you see a star in a movie, recognize that regardless of how talented they are, they were likely rejected thousands of times before they got to the big screen. No risk, no rewards.
Fear of change
Most of the world desires change but fears it at the same time. We cannot control change. It will likely control us. If I show off my talent I will likely lose my current routine. Life will never be the same. This one is true. No doubt about it things will change when you begin expressing your gifts. People will expect more and your old routines will no longer work. No more quiet evenings at home for you. But what is in store is a life of significance. Put that on for size. Many years from now when your body is food for worms your significance will still be living on.
Fear of exposure
Now this is a big one! Watch auditions for musicals or for some reality shows. There are men and women who believe that they have some awesome talent and in truth they are awful. As you watch them perform they are so proud and are waiting for you to give them applause. Why not? They have been told that they are so talented because family did not want to hurt their feelings or were possibly blinded by love. This is what we are afraid has happened for us. We wonder if this talent that we are about to expose is real or not. Have those around us been hesitant to tell us the truth? This too we can confront. Find unbiased people to give us honest feedback. Plead with our loved ones to tell us the truth. Seek feedback from service clubs or other strangers. Let them fill you in on the truth. Worst case scenario you won’t end up on TV as a joke. Best case scenario you receive confirmation of your gifts.
You have gifts. They might be unusual or you might not understand how it could possibly benefit society but you have them. If you take the risk and express that gift you might make the world better. We, the people, need you to express that gift. Our world is waiting.