Make New Friends Using These 5 Methods

Are you wondering how to make new friends and how those relationships will improve your life?

If the show FRIENDS taught us anything, our friends are an important aspect of what makes life enjoyable.

The book “Healthy at 100” by John Robbins makes the point that one of the keys to living (not just existing but really living to 100 years old) is to have good relationships.

That sounds great since I want to enjoy as many days as possible.

How to make new friends in any situation

However, how do I create these life-giving relationships and continue to make new friends when my current ones keep moving?

Below are five methods to meet new people and, hopefully, new friendships.

Get out of the house

When I was 21 years old, I endured a season of my life where I was unemployed.

For the first week, I sat around my apartment watching television and somehow got it into my head that some employer would randomly dial seven digits and call to offer me a job.

Now I don’t know the mathematical odds of something like that happening, but you can probably guess that it didn’t happen.

The second week I started looking at the newspaper and making phone calls to find employment.

The concept was quite honestly a bit crazy.

However, many people hope to make friends, but they don’t go anywhere.

Sitting inside all day, it would be a rare breed of person that will walk up to your door and knock and ask if you want to be friends.

(It does happen for kids sometimes, but not for adults.)

You must find a way to get out of your house.

Go to the local pub.

Sit out at the neighborhood park.

Visit a city museum.

Look around your house.

What do you have to lose?

Those friends you need for a long and happy life are absent.

Break out and hang out at the mall.

Do something outside of your house.

Show your passions

Having had the opportunity to travel, I have enjoyed going to sports events in many cities.

I was at a minor league baseball game once, and the home team hit a home run.

Total strangers gave me a high five.

Others invited me to dance with them, and general chaos was in order.

We shared a passion for the sport that pushed us past the weirdness of being strangers.

In the midst of the joys and passions of the moment, we were lifelong friends.

This is true when you visit museums, concerts, and a whole host of activities.

Suddenly, you are surrounded by people of like passions when you are there.

That one thing in common can be a source of great relationships.

Open up your eyes and look around.

Cheer for your favorite band or team and celebrate friendship.

You have something in common and something to talk about.

That is a great basis for friendship.

Stop to help

In my thirties, another season of my life, I was a small church pastor.

There were great moments of celebration with people as kids graduated, couples got married, and folks became inspired to live a new life.

But almost ten years later, the men and women I am still friends with today are those who experienced a crisis, and I was there to help.

Funerals and wayward children represented these.

A cheating husband left his wife hurt and broken.

Countless hospital visits and tear-filled nights as we struggled through difficult circumstances together.

I was there for them in their time of need, and though we rarely bring up those events, the pain brought us together.

Look for someone in need and reach out to help them.

You don’t have to be a counselor to listen or a professional mover to carry a few boxes for folks.

Twice in my life, I was broken down alongside the road with a flat tire and no tire jack.

People stopped to help me, and I remember them fondly nineteen years later.

Stopping to help people in need is likely the way to build the strongest relationships.

You never know who you will meet when you look to serve others.

Even if they are not your friends, when it is over, you will be remembered as a hero, which is not too bad.

Join a club or other organization

Also, in my thirties, I left the Army and moved to a town I had never been to or had even heard of.

This was a whole new season of life for me.

In the Army, you become friends with those you are serving with.

Here, I was mostly alone.

Don’t get me wrong, I was happy to have my family there with me, but I lacked friends.

After a short season of not knowing where to go for friends, I signed up to join Toastmasters.

This club gave me friends that were encouraging and motivating in all areas of my life.

We ate together, played together, and became good friends.

As I’ve grown older, I have been to many towns and experienced many other civic organizations and clubs.

They all have their passions and focus areas.

Do some research and check them out.

You likely have friends waiting there who have passions that will match yours.

Volunteer and make new friends

Today I work at Gospel Rescue Mission in Muskogee, Oklahoma, where I meet the most interesting people in the world.

These men and women are experiencing homelessness, hunger, and hopelessness.

But when you get to know them, you discover they have interesting stories.

Some have traveled the world.

Others have advanced college degrees, and others have simply had many adventures.

Dinner conversations are rarely boring.

Other places in our communities also have needs for volunteers and serve interesting people.

They come in all shapes and sizes and work in various fields.

Certainly, you can find someplace that matches your passions.

Now, it might cost you a couple of hours a week.

The friends you meet will not only be the clients or guests or the people being served.

Others are there to volunteer and work that will likely prove genuine people you can call friends.

Check out the non-profits in your community and see where they need help.

Interesting people are waiting for you.

Be excited to make new friends today

It is my desire to live a long, healthy, and happy life.

Everyone can handle a few more friends.

These people will be with us in the good and the bad.

These people will encourage you to push on when you want to quit.

Having people surrounding us gives us energy, motivation, and life.

Seek friends, and I will see you at a meeting of those living at 100.

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