It was 6 pm and I’d just eaten all the berries in my fridge. As I stood there typing on my computer in the middle of my kitchen, aggressively putting berries in my mouth and chewing, I kept taking glances at the unwashed dishes that I had to finish before 9 or else my mom was going to lose it on me.
I noticed that my cup of water was empty so I headed to the fridge and grabbed the pitcher. As I was filling my cup back up with water, it hit me. I stopped to look around at the dishes and the empty berry trays on my counter and started to think.
Do you ever feel all over the place? Like when you come home and the house is a mess but, you know you have to work on something important for your job or school. So, you put the cleaning off and strap down on the work instead. I know from personal experience that it’s not a good feeling.
Now, I know that you know that life gets messy A LOT of the time. Personally, I spend my days constantly working to balance chores, school, training, 2 social media marketing jobs, and managing a nonprofit organization. I feel like I’m in a circus because I’m always trying to juggle half of my life on one hand and half on the other and things can get real crazy, real quick. So, in other words I too, am learning along with all of you 🙂
It’s easy to become overwhelmed with all that we do on our journey to accomplish our goals that we set. I understand how hard it is to step down and take a break from something you feel needs to be done and this is never going to be a bad thing but, there needs to be a balance.
Here are a few ways that you can be one step closer to finding your happy medium.
1. Write It All Down
A brilliant lady named Marie Forleo, a.k.a one of THE greatest, most successful entrepreneurs out there said something that goes like this, “If it’s not on paper, IT’S NOT REAL!” Write. Things. Down. This is the best piece of advice I had ever received. When you write things down it gives you the opportunity to really look at what’s inside of that busy busy brain of yours. Plus, you can relieve yourself of the tension of trying to remember everything! You won’t have to constantly remind yourself because it is now put into a visual perspective for you to see every time you open your notebook. It doesn’t matter where it comes from. If you’re thinking of it, it needs to be on that paper in front of you in clear writing for you to see:
- take out the trash on a regular basis
- finish that research paper due on Monday
- drink more water
No matter what it is, write it down.
2. Separate the Want from the Need, Priorities Come First
Once, you have everything down and the refresh button is activated it’s time to put things into priority order. On one page list everything you NEED to do.
- finish writing research paper
- send out that email
- clean kitchen
- make dinner
- survive another day
Now, on another page write everything you WANT to do.
- dinner with Beth on Friday
- go to the mall
- buy that dress I really wanted
You might need to double check these things and really think about their category. So, go over it a few times and review what you’ve got down so far. Once you feel like you’ve got it, it’s time for the plan of execution.
3. Make A Schedule, Plan It Out
Whether you are working or in school (or both), you need a schedule so you can balance your personal life and work life. Obviously, there are certain things that already have a set time slot like your job, school, meetings, and so forth. Start with the NEED. End with the WANT.
- Look at all of the things that are absolutely set with time slots and dates, put those in your schedule first.
- Now, look at things with due dates (reports, research papers, blog posts) designate time slots and days for you to work on these things so you can turn it in on time and not miss out on enjoying your life.
- Next, is your care and survival such as: making dinner, feeding the dog, cleaning the kitchen.
Once you have all of the need down, see if you can fit in the things you want to do! Remember that there are lots of weekends and when you have a set schedule it’s easier to find your availability 🙂
Note: Be open to change. Life is crazy and sometimes things won’t go your way. This is okay 🙂 Breathe and re-adjust.
4. Enjoy The Sanity
Now, you can relax and enjoy your sanity. Finding the happy medium in life isn’t always gumdrops and rainbows. This is a skill that we constantly have to work to be better at. Things don’t need to be done all in one day. You don’t have to cram it all in and feel like it’s life or death if you don’t finish. You can breathe, there’s no reason for you to suffocate yourself with work and worry. This just leads to more suffocation. Realize that you have some time and use that time wisely. As a quote writer and motivational blogger I’d like to leave you with this,
“When your cup is full, it overflows. When it is empty, you lose nourishment. But, when you fill it up with the right amount it becomes a source of life.”
Stay Stoked. Be Happy. Nothing Is Impossible.