We’ve all had it happen at one point in our lives.
Someone we care about has broken our trust or deceived us.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, someone you’re dating, or a loved one.
It could be something as small as not showing up when you agreed to meet or saying one thing and doing another.
Or it could be something more serious, like taking money from you or cheating on you.
When someone we care about breaks our trust, it hurts. Plain and simple.
If the person acknowledges the fact, they broke our trust and asks for forgiveness, most of us are willing to offer it.
Depending on the issue, most people deserve an opportunity for redemption.
However, what do you do when the same person breaks your trust over and over?
Since trust is essential to any healthy relationship, it’s important to know when to break off the relationship.
We’ve got five tips to help you know when to call it quits when trusting someone:
1) Listen To Your Instincts
Do you have a feeling in your gut that something isn’t right?
Your instinct understands and interprets your past experiences and wisdom – so don’t ignore it.
If you feel you’re being deceived again, you’re probably right.
It’s difficult trusting someone again.
When the time is right, find the truth, and don’t be fooled again.
2) You’re Used to Weak or Absent Apologies
If deception has happened so often that the apologies are pitifully weak, or there’s no apology, it’s time to kick the person and the behavior to the curb.
It also means it’s happened too often for them to care how you feel.
They don’t feel like they need your forgiveness. So do you need them?
The answer is no. No one should be treated with such a lack of respect.
3) You’re Full of Excuses
When you fib or exaggerate to cover up for this person’s behavior.
Do you find that you have a reason why this person is late or never shows up?
Do you blame it on their job or friends who are a bad influence?
Or do you feel a need to explain their tough childhood or previous relationship woes?
Whatever the multitude of excuses are, breaking up may be hard to do, but so is trusting someone and their destructive behavior.
4) Listen to Your Friends
Sometimes our friends see things we don’t see ourselves.
They’re probably spot on when they comment about the unreliable person in your life.
Good friends want what’s best for you and will not say something if they don’t believe it is true.
Oh, sure, you may feel angry at first.
But down deep, you know they’re right.
When it gets to this stage, it’s time to cut your losses and stop trusting someone your friends can’t trust either.
5) It’s Time for an Integrity Check
When you’ve been mistreated by a deceptive friend or loved one so often that you no longer feel it’s wrong, it’s time for an integrity check!
Remember your values and integrity, and be a bigger person who can walk away from being treated badly by someone who’s supposed to care about you and your well-being.
When you don’t recognize yourself anymore and who you have become because of this person, remember these boots are made for walking!
Learn when to stop trusting someone who keeps breaking your trust.