Connect with us

6 Reasons It’s Hard To Figure Out What You Really Want Out Of Life

Listen to article TITLE
Listen to article 4 minutes

Everyone talks about how important it is to find and live your calling.

However, many of us struggle to figure out what we really want out of life.

What if your calling has changed over time?

Is it OK to want many things out of life?

How do you know if you are living your best life?

Self-discovery can be a challenging and often never-ending pursuit.

A variety of strengths & personality tests can be taken to discover one’s greatest assets.

However, synthesizing them into one career that lasts a lifetime is not realistic for everyone.

Human beings are complex and constantly undergo developmental changes.

Likewise, the market and demand of the culture can be fickle and is in a constant state of flux.

Therefore, if you find it difficult to figure out what you really want in life, you are not alone.

It’s hard to figure out what you really want out of life and what to do about it:

1. A big part of development is self-discovery, which lasts a lifetime.

No life form exists that is static, and human beings are a prime example.

Philosophers have proposed that the entire purpose of life is to discover your true nature.

Individuals who have curious minds want to learn about themselves and the world in which they live.

Like an onion, as we uncover one layer of ourselves, we reveal new layers.

This self-discovery process never ends.

Once you accept the process, rather than the destination as your guide, you can relax into doing what you want at this moment in time and being open to changing desires in the future.

We cannot stop change.

Doing so leads to death.

You will also enjoy our article on Why Does Life Suck.

2. Many people were not raised to lead using their intuition but focused outwardly to determine what is correct.

Ideally, one follows their intuition while navigating the outer world with mastery.

Related  18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18

Cultures throughout the world have established norms of what is proper and acceptable behavior.

Rules are necessary in order to have a functional society.

However, we often take them to an extreme, particularly when for-profit businesses get their hands in the influential mix.

We all know that it’s not what other people want for you or think you should have that makes you happy.

The decision must come from within you in order to produce satisfaction.

One of the best ways to focus on your intuition and determine what is truly desirable to you is to pay attention to your body sensations.

We should honor the cues our body sends us if something leads to contraction and unpleasant physical responses.

When your body feels an expansion and sensations that delight you, it’s a good indicator that you are on the right track.

3. ­Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, Harvard Professor & Historian, said, “Well behaved women seldom make history,” but fear prevents people from making history.­

The masses of people live in fear presently.

People block a lot of what they want because they can think of endless reasons to be afraid, and it takes courage to have faith and receive criticism from others for stepping out on a limb.

Some studies suggest that the biggest fear of Generation Y (adults currently age 20-35) is not fitting in and not having the approval of their peers.

Under the pressure to conform, one must squash their own desires, which is why “groupthink” can be oppressive and lowers creativity.

Though there are no quick solutions to this dilemma, patience, perseverance, and confidence must be practiced.

Remember what Gandhi said, “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”

Keep your eye on the prize.

Know that in the end, others will admire you for your bravery and originality.

Related  Rock Bottom Quotes To Bounce Back In Life

You will respect yourself for staying true to yourself.

It doesn’t matter whether your pursuit leads to worldly success.

What matters is that you exercised courage in the name of alignment with the spirit within.

You will also enjoy our article on i have no purpose.

4. As humans develop through the lifecycle, their perspectives and attitudes change.

A key learning point in my psychotherapy training was that our perspectives change.

This statement is true even for very specific incidents.

For example, as a child, you may have feared being left alone in your room, while as an adult, you may love alone time.

Or, perhaps you had an argument with someone years ago that now, looking back, you see in a different light.

The reason for these perspective shifts is that time and experience change our thinking.

An event may happen that inspires you to advocate for a particular cause that you may not have cared about in the past.

In order to navigate the uncertainties of life, you must be alert for messages and synchronicities in your life.

If an opportunity presents itself, that was not part of your plan; it could be the universe directing you toward an ultimate destiny that you are not aware of.

Remember that there is always a force larger than you at play.

5. Rewards come to those who follow their longings and their desire for truth.

All the twists and turns it takes to get to the ultimate destination are part of the destination, the same way that running a marathon is the main event that precedes crossing the finish line.

We learn by comparing and contrasting.

It’s impossible to do so without experiencing a lot of what you don’t want.

The next time you face an undesirable circumstance, remember that it only serves to enhance a future desirable circumstance.

Also, as you get older, you have an accumulation of years from which to look back and spot the one or two things you’ve always wanted.

Related  Overcome Your Fear: 5 Steps to Become More Confident

Those things are what you are meant to express and achieve in your lifetime!

6. Life is infinite. There is no end to it, no final destination.

Once you understand the true nature of life, nothing can destroy that energy.

Energy can only be transformed.

You can relax because you’ll understand that there is no “one destiny” for you.

Every moment offers a new reality, a new perspective, and a new set of choices.

You are the artist, and the world is your canvas.

You are here to create.

What you create is less important than why you create.

Show gratitude and enthusiasm for the life you’ve created, and enjoy yourself in the process!

Big Idea about getting what you want out of life

Finding what you really want in life is hard.

You may believe that other people clearly know what they want and that you are missing some piece or clue.

However, it’s not true.

Even though I knew what excited me as a child, it took me several careers and many twists and turns to arrive at my passion.

My passion and the opportunities I seize continue to unfold in unexpected ways.

I am frustrated and discouraged when I cling to details of what I thought should happen.

When I view each phase of my life and career as its own developmental era, composed of certain works, I am free to adapt to my increasing potential and the world’s changing demands.

You, too, can find your way with a balance of openness and staying true to your heart.

There’s no need to worry about one final calling.

Your calling is ultimately the series of experiences called your life.

Share your thoughts with us about getting what you want out of life with us in the comment section below.

1 Comment
Click to view
1 Comment
  1. Andreah

    September 28, 2020 at 6:45 PM

    Thank you! This makes so much sense to me right now, I’m glad I came across these words.

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *