Fame, Money, and Love: What We All Want

We really do want it all in today’s world: fame, money, and love!

In popular culture, we see stories where some get close!

There is the heroine who sacrifices her career for the man she loves.

Then there is the entrepreneur who is so single-minded that he ends up with a fortune and maybe fame but is alone.

Or the talented young man who can sing becomes a star on the stage but can’t stay married.

But how often does this happen?

Is there more to life than fame, money, and love?

These are the primary drivers for most folks.

However, the story is that you can have one or maybe two, but rarely all three.

Yet, I would say that happiness is founded on achieving some measure of each.

But if love, fame, and money are competing goals, how can ordinary folks achieve all of them?

After all, we only have so many hours in the day.

Maybe, we are going about this in the wrong way.

Instead of thinking of love, fame, and money competing for our time and energy, maybe we must find the common thread that allows all three.

Three years ago, I began to make a documentary film that asks what a “good” life is.

The film is called A Small Good Thing.

It follows five stories of people in the Berkshires in Western Massachusetts who have changed their lives to be happy and to live well.

What’s more important than money, love, and fame?

Happiness is what we are all after and has something to do with love, money, and fame.

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But, we can only achieve the Big Three when we have figured out what we value and what we are here for, otherwise known as your purpose.

Stephen Cope, yogi, and author, says in A Small Good Thing that happiness is finding “what lights you up.”

If you are doing work that makes you miserable, even though it might pay well, you won’t be much good to others.

Miserable work is exhausting, making it hard to be present for family or friends.

Or say you have work you love—if it doesn’t pay, then how long can that last?

And fame is tricky—if it comes from doing the work you were meant to.

If not, fame won’t last.

So, what to do?

The folks featured in the five stories in A Small Good Thing wrestle with this question of purpose in their work and with others.

Jen and Pete Salinetti started out as a young couple by working in landscape design.

Both are hard workers and soon built a client base for their ornamental gardens.

The money came in, and they had two babies.

But, they found themselves stressed, exhausted, and at odds.


They thought it might be because working for others was too demanding.

And yet, how could they take care of their growing family without clients?

They decided to get out of the landscaping business and concentrate on family.

They grew a small plot of vegetables—just enough for their needs.

Through these actions, they realized that nurturing their family and loved ones mattered most to them.

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Growing the best food in the healthiest soil was part of this nurturance.

Jen and Pete Salinetti found their purpose.

Now, they sell their produce to a large CSA and a Cooperative in the area.

They have such a passion for healthy food that they have become teachers of sustainable practices such as composting and extended season growing.

They use no fertilizer—because it is healthier for the soil and the planet.

Finding their purpose gave them the energy and desire to give back to others.

The Salinettis still work the same long hours as they did as landscapers but are less stressed.

The difference is that everything they do is about what they value: nurturing their family, community, and the earth.

And, in the course of doing so, their business is thriving, their children are happy, and they are recognized as experts in their field.

So, grow a garden and be happy?

Not so simple.

Each person has to find their own calling

Tim Durrin is a veteran who struggled with PTSD.

He found his purpose through the hard work of addiction recovery, yoga, and a cycling practice.

By the end of the film, he gained a full scholarship to a prestigious school for social work.

Finding one’s purpose isn’t a matter of sitting around staring into space.

Most of us need to be out in the world of work and learning to know what is right and wrong for us.

Mark Gerow is a respected and sought-after yoga teacher featured in A Small Good Thing.

He has two sons.

He earns enough money to live comfortably.

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But, we see him struggling with the work of parenting.

He talks about feeling isolated and even downright miserable despite his years of spiritual practice.

In the course of the film, we watch him change.

He postures less and admits to how much he struggles.

He begins to truly ‘know himself”—with all his faults and fears.

And out of this struggle, he finds his purpose.

I won’t spoil the film for you—but, on a follow-up visit with him recently, we found he had a new job with good pay and recognition.

He just bought his first house.

His boys are mainly with him, and this is a good thing.

In making this film, I have wrestled with these issues in my own life

In doing so, I have found my purpose, to tell stories of folks who sacrifice, struggle, and avoid their life’s work and calling until they finally do what matters.

This is a small, good thing.

The film is meant to entertain and start conversations about what matters.

And that is not fame, money, or love, at least, maybe not in the way you think.

So, we offer the film from our website to screen in community groups.

Go to our www.asmallgoodthingfilm.com and arrange a screening for your friends and family, your business, or community group and start this conversation!

Let us know your thoughts in the comment section below!

Pamela Tanner Boll is the Director of A Small, Good Thing, a film about people who have abandoned the belief that more is better to find different kinds of happiness. She also directed 2008's Who Does She Think She Is?, a film about five artists who are mothers and was the Co-Executive Producer of 2004's Academy Award-winning Born into Brothels. She's also the Executive Producer of five documentaries: Connected, In a Dream, Our Summer in Tehran, Strange Powers: Stephin Merritt and the Magnetic Fields and Living in Emergency: Stories of Doctors without Borders.