Failure is something completely natural – no matter how intelligent, strategic and smart you are, you cannot avoid failure at certain times. There is no person ever, including the greatest of greats, who has not tasted failure at least once in life.
But what made them really great? Well, it’s their indomitable spirit that did not allow them to bog down in the face of failure. Yes, it’s true that a failure shakes your confidence a bit but if you are a true achiever you will try to look past the failure with renewed energy and spirit. Here is a brief on how to win back your confidence when you have met a failure.
How to Gain Confidence From Your Failure
1.) Face your failure
You must face the failure as trying to avoid it will only keep you in darkness. Once you accept the failure it would be easier for you to take it in a positive light and learn the experiences derived from it. You would be able to fathom your pitfalls so that you can work on it for a better future.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
2.) Be positive about the experience
Tell yourself that without this failure you would not have been able to discover your weak points and would not have this scope to work on them to make your life better & avoid future failures in this context. So, in a way, you should be grateful to the failure.
3.) Cut the losses
Sit down with a calm head and think over your typical desires, preferences and aptitudes. At times you fail simply because you didn’t enjoy the task and it’s not your calling. In that case, you have to quit the field. The failure can also happen given your lack of skills or aptitude. If it’s the case with you, try to enhance your abilities.
4.) Move forward
Tell yourself that you would be doing things differently from now on.
5.) Improve yourself to earn back
Now, that you are aware of the weakness or mistakes that caused the failure, you set this goal to learn up the needed skills so that you can improve yourself & bypass such failures in future.
“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” — Vince Lombardi
6.) Work harder & build the skills
You should work harder to build up the needed skills. You would definitely need more time to outcome your weakness by new skills than to hone up your strengths. So, prepared to stay devoted in improving yourself. A committed practice is the keyword here.
7.) Go external
At times when your confidence is badly shattered due to a massive failure, you might need to be encouraged by somebody dear who believes in you and has faith in your abilities. It could be your friend or a family member who has witnessed you overcoming a failure bravely in the past and has this confidence that you would be able to rewind your spirit once again. Go and talk to the person for the needed pep talk.
8.) Practice positivity
Feel positive about yourself. A terrible failure does not make you a terrible person. You should still have to have faith in yourself to gain back the confidence. Practice believing in positivity, remember failure is a temporary thing and if you are ready to work hard and that too in the right direction- success cannot be far.
“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
9.) Fear is a natural consequence
Fear is a natural consequence when one fails – accept this bitter truth as only then you would be able to think beyond the failure. If you are hiding from the fear you are only letting it control you.
10.) Be nice
You should always maintain a positive language and pay heed to constructive criticism to enhance your strong points and mend the weak ones.
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.” – George S. Patton