Why We Do Not Need To Be Happy All The Time

Are you trying to be happy all the time?


If we aren’t careful, we can chase after it, day in and day out, as if it is some endpoint.

It’s not.

Happiness is not some ‘thing’ to achieve.

Nor is it some magical destination.

Happiness is a part of our journey in life.

It is a state of mind, a state of being that one must seek to attain, maintain, and accomplish.

Yoga masters have spent lifetimes seeking it.

Buddhists spend hundreds of hours trying to attain it.

Addicts and drug users seek short-term artificial bursts of it (which ultimately destroys the pure, true form of happiness).

So, we should be happy all the time, right?

Not necessarily, and here is why.

Why You Don’t Need To Be Happy All The Time

Throughout our lives, we will have good times and bad times.

Times of joy and times of pain.

Such is the way of life.

But this balance of pleasure and pain is one of the primary drivers of our lives.

It’s what allows us to become who we are.

But staying in one state can actually throw us out of balance or knock us off track.

We need to have a little turbulence here and there in order to allow us to relish and make the most of the good times.

What does this mean?

That we should be miserable or unhappy sometimes?


It means that while life can knock us off balance now and then (with seemingly bad events occurring in our life), we must be able to return to a positive disposition quickly and more powerfully.

Being happy all the time would mean not experiencing other emotions

We shouldn’t be happy all the time because there are a variety of other positive emotions that, when used properly, will allow us to strengthen our positive outlook.

When all these emotions are utilized in our daily lives, they allow us to experience a whole new level of enjoyment – and, yes, happiness.

It’s a matter of how we interpret the meaning of events that occur in our lives, as well as the attitudes we carry every day.

That is what we must seek.

Not happiness itself, but the ability to give a positive meaning to events in our lives and how we will use the energy created by said events.

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If you aren’t carrying a positive/happy disposition at this moment, here are some emotions and virtues that will help you move away from the negative towards the more positive.

Regardless of what life throws at you.

While they aren’t necessarily the same as being “happy,” they strike a similar chord.

1. Gratitude

Perhaps one of the most under-expressed emotions in the modern day is that of gratitude.

This is an incredible starting point if you’re just beginning your quest for happiness.

Gratitude, when practiced in its whole and unadulterated fashion, allows one to experience the world through a lens of abundance, like none other.

Think about the incredible things one has at their disposal in today’s modern world.

A computer, with which you can read this article, or access nearly any other piece of information you like, to a degree that we have never had.

Your health, which many of us will take for granted until we are ill or injured.

Walking is another huge blessing! So are seeing, smelling, feeling, and smiling, as well as not being stuck in a bed/on crutches/in a wheelchair.

The universe has provided you with literally hundreds of things to be grateful for.

Start each morning by being grateful that you woke up, that you have your sight, and that you can get out there to put your skills to use for the world to experience.

Be grateful for your successes and failures, as this is how you learn where and how to apply your skills.

If one puts forth the emotion and energies of abundance – and gratitude for it – the universe will work to reward you with abundance.

Before you know it, you’ll feel small spurts of JOY.

2. Joy

While a close relative to happiness, joy is when something or someone in our world creates a huge burst of happiness at once.

But it takes determination and boldness to practice gratitude frequently and consistently enough to have more joy in your life.

“Joy is freedom. When a person fills his mind with joy, his intellect becomes freed from its exile. He can control his mind and intellect however he wants so as to concentrate on his goal.” – Anonymous Sage

As you experience small bits of joy throughout your daily life, it will build momentum and strength.

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Gratitude and joy can work together to create a foundation for happiness and to allow you to sail your boat through the vast majority of storms that life – and the universe – may throw at you.

This is where we stand as sentinels using our own eyes and ears.

We vigilantly seek the good in things we see, hear, and speak.

Listening to music that lights up your soul, for example, can literally pull you out of despair and sickness.

Just look at this wonderful video clip that has gone viral on Facebook recently!

If you’re not musically inclined but more artistically inclined, painting, drawing, ceramics, and other arts also allow us to connect and express the joy we hold within.

These arts are expressions of our raw soul.

They lift us and allows us to access our own “inner genius.”

A great sage once said:

“Joy is a vessel with which to draw upon the wellsprings of vitality and freshness.”

3. Patience

“Everything that happens is for a reason.”

Even the things that do not make us happy all the time.

To be patient and tranquil no matter what happens in your day-to-day life is perhaps the highest level of happiness one can attain.


Because to have the absolute, unshakable faith that everything that happens to you is for your ultimate good is the hardest and most challenging thing there is in life.

I do not say this lightly.

While I still have a bit more to travel on my road to success, I am not far removed from some of the absolutely most trying days of my life and career… and I’ve seen it with the athletes whom I coach and the businesses that I’ve worked with as a consultant.

As soon we become focused and start hustling toward our purpose in life, towards our dream, we suddenly encounter hardship, obstacles, and obstructions in what seems like every shape and form and from nearly every single direction.

But, my friend, the obstacle is the way (this is a great book as well).

We can truly experience joy as we work harder, hustle harder and smarter, and focus on an attitude of gratitude despite these obstacles.

As we turn that suffering and despair into pure happiness that is far greater than we would have had, we realize we would not have learned what we are truly capable of were it not for that obstruction on the way to our dream.

As my dad reminded me constantly along my professional journey:

“How do you attain a higher purity in gold? You put it into a hotter fire to burn off the impurities.”

You don’t need to be happy all the time.

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The key here is patience, with a grateful attitude, which allows us to be filled with positive energy – not negativity.

This is where you go from someone who is seeking success and happiness to one who is Success-FULL and happy.

Do you still wish you were happy all the time?

Our world today is filled with those who are depressed, angry, and sad.

Our society is supporting this downtrodden thinking by constantly pushing the bad and horrible things that have happened every hour.

The news” is constantly depicting the negative things that have occurred while we lost the many good things upon us, buried under the bad of the world.

Finding true joy and happiness is the hardest thing to do, especially in today’s world.

It appears one must literally force oneself to be happy all the time.

However, happiness begins by enacting an attitude of gratitude to everything and everyone.

We must also be patient through life’s trials and storms.

Combining gratitude and patience together will allow joy to form in small spurts.

Then you will experience joy in greater and greater abundance.

As long as one is consistent in their hourly efforts to turn this depressive, worrisome mindset into joy and happiness… If you truly set your mind to it, you find that even during the worst troubles or suffering, there is within it an opening that you can use to turn those sad, depressed feelings into joy…

As they say in love:

The test of whether your heart was truly broken, is if afterwards you feel joy.”

Or put it more simply: sometimes, in order to feel happiness, you need to experience some pain.

But don’t allow it to jade you, as true happiness is pure and unadulterated.

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