Today, millennials are faced with A LOT of social expectations that cause most of our stress and anxiety. These expectations are passed down from older generations through family and peers, who always did things “the way they were supposed to.”
As a millennial, you need to be aware of these expectations, so you can break free of their shackles – and live life on your terms.
Here are 7 social expectations you must constantly fight:
1. You Need to Go Towards Security
I always hear people say, “but the job has good benefits” – and it is concerning to me. It is not that I have a problem with benefits. I have a problem with people choosing benefits over personal growth and happiness.
- You don’t think you get paid enough.
- You feel like you get disrespected.
- You get no recognition.
- You are not growing.
But you have to stay because the job has significant benefits… What???
These days, all you have to do to make someone settle into the same old pattern is throw some benefits their way, and they will feel trapped for life.
Security or stability teaches you to play it safe. You never try anything new, or explore your real potential. You just want something steady that pays decent, or has some benefits. A job that allows you to pay all of your bills to go on a few dates and life is good, right?
Train yourself early to run from this as fast as you can. Go for the opportunities that present you with the most amount of growth. If you continue to grow, the money will come if you’re patient.
2. You’re Too Young/Old for a Family
I got married when I was 24, and my wife was 22. I immediately heard a ton of people telling me that I was too young to get married, and they could not believe I was doing this so young and blah blah blah.
Now, I have no problem with waiting until you are older to get married and have kids, all of that jazz. But people will always tell you that you are wrong. If you wait until you are 30, then everyone will harass and keep asking when you’ll get married.
Live life on YOUR terms – don’t be pressured by social expectations. When you are ready to do it, go after it.
Being single means you can think of yourself and do what you want, when you want. It has many advantages for going after goals. But having a family can provide a lot of motivation because well, you have a family depending on you to go and be a star.
3. You Need to Buy a Home
I think this one irks me because it is old-fashioned. The reason I am not a fan of buying homes has nothing to do with finances at all. I understand that buying a home makes more sense than renting from a financial standpoint.
My issue with the purchase of a home is homeowners tend to settle for less because they feel stuck. It is like when people buy a home and say “I am ready to settle down”. They just give up on growing.
I have only rented since moving out of my parents home, and it has kept me agile. I can go anywhere at any time. People with homes sound like someone chained them to their property when they talk about new opportunities.
I am not saying don’t buy a home. What I am saying is to think about it. It is not 1995; we are coming up on 2020 and times are just different.
4. You Need to Get Ready for Retirement
You don’t need to prepare for retirement. What you need to prepare for is finding work that does NOT make you want to retire.
Retirement made so much sense when you worked a dull factory job. Day in and out, you do the same thing: to provide for your family. When you are done, you get paid, and at age 65 you can finally live life.
Any people I have met in my life that do what they love never talk about retirement. They have enough money to retire at any point, but why would they? They love what they do, and they are still growing because of it.
Don’t squeeze yourself into having to get that 401k. Don’t go for what makes you feel safe and secure at the cost of finding what you love. That just does not make sense! Find what you like so that building your 401K will be fun and easy.
5. You Need to Work More/Less
You got an excellent job you love, and you work your tail off for it. There will be people all over your ass telling you NOT to work so much.
People want to make your life look like their life. If they decide to watch three hours of TV per night, they want to know why you won’t do the same. Mind you, I have no problem if someone wants to watch TV – just don’t expect me to join you.
You need to work as much as you need to work. If you work too hard and burn out, well, you will learn and get better. You have to control your life and protect your dream from everyone. You have the vision that was made just for you!
When I started building FIXT, I knew it was going to take A LOT of work. At first, there would be little results to show for it. To some, this is a sign that something great is on the way; while others will focus on the lack of results and tell you to quit.
Focus on what you need to do – not on social expectations.
6. You Need What Your Parents Have
Our parents raised us. So naturally, we feel we need the things they have due to social expectations, and they want us to have better.
Here is the problem: your parents did not always have what they have now. If you talk to them about times when you were a baby, I bet the story would be A LOT different. They struggled, and because of that fight, they are strong!
Now, they are great parents. So they see you struggle and they want to come in and save the day. Don’t let them! Struggle; you will be OK in the end. You have to make your own way and remind them of when they were younger and what they went through. They will understand.
7. You Need to Go to School
Do you think you need to go to school more?
You go to school for a purpose. The goal has transformed into who can go to school for the longest. The smart ones realize that the aim should be to go to school for the least amount of time that is needed.
Why would you want to be spending more money to go to school and go into debt, when you are not sure of a payoff coming for doing so?
Do the math. Not everyone needs to go to college, or get their Masters or Ph.D. These are simply social expectations. I hear parents brag most of the time because their kid is still in school. In my mind, that is NOT always brag-worthy.
Everything I have learned that has mattered has come from experiences and not from school. Going to school for business has done nothing to help me be a savvier businessman.
FIXT and the core knowledge to help athletic injuries has come from being an athlete myself, running a blog for athletes, creating a clothing line, running a custom-made tie company, and helping my wife who is a massage therapist.
Are you ready to live life on your own terms and throw away social expectations?
It is YOUR life. Take responsibility for it and go do what you need to get what you want. Will you make other people worried? Yes! Does it matter? Nope. Not at all, because it is YOUR life.