Yes, there are other “motives” for humans other than money, fame and love. However, for so many people, they strive to make millions – with the ultimate goal of having lots of money to enjoy. They often dream of traveling and not working but having more than enough money to spend whenever and wherever.
How Personal Satisfaction Transcends Money, Fame and Love
There are others who strive for more money through hard work and promotions, winning a huge jackpot from this lottery game or another, or achieving that pot of gold from some great investments. Again, their ultimate goal is to eliminate the need to work a 9-5 job.
Still others strive for fame.
They want to be the next best singer, actor or sports figure. They want to see their name in lights on large marques, on the label of the album of the year and/or the New York best seller of the year, or having their picture the feature of the Jumbotron boards at the sports stadium of their choice.
And yes, there are those who do whatever, whenever and wherever they can for love which is sometimes reciprocated and other times not. They strive for acceptance by doing things they would not otherwise do. They also give up things they want in order to give the love of their life what they want.
But are these the only motivations people have to make their lives happy?
Are there other reasons people do what they do? Should there be other reasons? Perhaps there are more selfish reasons or perhaps even more important, some less selfish reasons to do what we do!
For me, I pray that my motivations are not selfish.
While making money is necessary to pay for everyday living expenses such as a place to live (rent or mortgage payments) along with the companion utility bills (gas, electric and water expenses). And yes we all rely on a telephone and transportation costs in our lives too.
But how much more do we need? Do we strive for thousands or even millions in a savings account, in investments that yield dividends? How much do we want? Do we need our everyday living space, a vacation get-away home and perhaps even a cabin in the woods for a break from the rat-race? How much is enough? Is there such as thing as too much?
In self-reflection on this topic, I find that my primary motivations have been the sense of accomplishment and one of having a specific purpose for whatever it is I do.
Being able to say, “I did it!” has carried me through many tough challenges with the thought that I can do it again and again. Sometimes this has included my dream to write a book. Other times it has meant beating a bout of cancer. The challenge has been different but the hopes and dreams of accomplishment has been the same.
As a child, I dreamed of writing a book of poetry.
It took decades before that dream was realized. Some family, friends and even medical personnel often encouraged me to write my autobiographical story of surviving multiple bouts of cancer. I worried no one would want to read about cancer, cancer and more cancer.
However, in 2011, the dream of writing a book became a reality. No, it wasn’t the wished-for book of poems but it was autobiographical and I did include a few poems too. Since that door opened to being a published author, other books have followed – another autobiographical books about multiple, crazy childhood injuries as well as some books for kids.
While the books I have written have sold, the best part of becoming a published author is seeing my name on the cover of each book. It feeds my soul to say, “I did it!” That has been very satisfying to me. It also encourages me to write more.
The feedback I receive from those who have read the books also feeds into my sense of accomplishment.
I can sit back and say, “I’ve touched their lives,” or other similar comments. I know that what I have accomplished has made a difference. It has inspired some, given hope to others and surprised still others who never thought I could or would write the first book – never considering all the others that have followed.
Knowing the feelings of those who have read the books, hearing the feedback from them, continues to encourage me to know that I have achieved the success I had hoped for by saying “I did it!”
In 2015, my sense of “purpose” took on new meaning.
With yet another diagnosis of cancer – this one with a very poor prognosis of survival – my desire to make a difference in the lives of those I know took on a targeted purpose. That sense of purpose boosts my drive to help others. I now strive to connect groups and individuals that complement each other to achieve mutual goals.
Hosting some networking events to connect business connections and authors to non-profits has been a true blessing. Seeing the progress and success of these connections has been amazing to me and made me wonder why we don’t do this sort of connecting on a routine basis. These endeavors continue to feed back to my sense of accomplishment!
My sense of accomplishment as my primary motivation to keep going, to keep doing what I love to do, certainly puts happiness in my life.
Having that sense of purpose continues to compliments my motivation to do things that make a difference – in my life and the lives of those whom I connect, guide, advise and support. It makes me want to repeat the process over and over again.
Is this sense of accomplishment and purpose enough motivation to rule one’s life?
For me, it is. For some others, it may not be. And yet, to some extent, these motivations have guided my life in a way to acquire money and even gain a bit of fame. Going to a store or an event and be recognized as the lady on the cover of the book, again, feeds my motivation of accomplishment.
I know that I did not write the book to become famous or to make a lot of money, but it is still a bonus to be recognized and receive this as acknowledgement of my accomplishment.
Love is the all elusive “what is it” that is so very hard to define.
For me, it is not just romantic in nature but a true feeling of caring and support. So to that end, my accomplishments have also given me “love.” But again, I was looking for love.
It was not my motivation for writing, doing radio, or for hosting networking connections. It has been, on occasion, a by-product that is another one of those great accomplishments I can list on my resume of life.
May we all find our true self, our true calling in this life and then use it to the best of our abilities.