5 Ways Acceptance of Failure Will Build Your Confidence

It’s easy to beat yourself up when you fail because acceptance of failure is challenging.

This is something that we all do remarkably well—even if only you know of your failure and no one else.

Sadly, you will hold yourself to the fire and become your own harshest critic.

While it’s good to hold ourselves accountable and ask ourselves whether we really pushed hard enough, it is just as important that we not doubt ourselves in our efforts and accomplishments.

Accepting failure isn’t easy.

But we can do a few things to ensure that we don’t critique ourselves too hard and can get back up after being knocked down.

Here are five ways to work on acceptance of failure and trying again:

5 Ways Acceptance of Failure Builds Your Confidence

1. Write it down.

Take a piece of paper or a notepad and write everything you did wrong.

Start with two columns.

In the first column, write everything that contributed to your failure.

If you fill the page and need more, keep writing.

In the second column, beside each item from the first exercise, write what you could do better.

While accepting failure is important, it is just as vital for us to identify how to avoid it next time.

2. Read it over once.

Now fold up the paper neatly and throw it in the garbage.

Better yet, burn it.

You made mistakes, and you’ve acknowledged them.

Now it’s time to move on.

If you don’t believe in this exercise, that’s okay.

But don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.

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Taking that hard look at yourself, writing it all out, is beneficial not because you get to see the words in your head but because you are transposing the word from your head – to somewhere else.

You are rationally transferring all those negative emotions of doubt and failure onto paper.

It’s devoid of any subjectivity.

You’re accepting failure.

Once you’ve done that, then it is gone.

3. Know that you tried.

Who else tried?

Maybe a few people did, but definitely not everyone.

YOU tried.

That’s important.

There are so many people who sit on the sidelines and critique those who try.

But there aren’t nearly enough folks who will celebrate individuals who made an effort.

This isn’t meant to create a “culture of failure.”

Rather, this is meant to celebrate the “you did something that no one else will do” type of culture.

There is a massive difference.

Building a new product for a high niche market?

Quitting your job to chase after your dream?

You did more than try – you went where others were too afraid to go.

Maybe you failed today.

But you definitely learned something that will prepare you for success tomorrow.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others.

You are further today than you were yesterday, last week, last month, or last year when you started on this path.

The knowledge, skills, and abilities you have learned are greater now.

This isn’t about measuring where others are.

This is about measuring how far you have come.

It’s deciding whether you want to go forward, learn more, and push yourself to do more.

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There is only one person on the road.

This is you.

So, keep moving through acceptance of failure.

5. Understand that some things are outside of your control.

In any failure, there are factors that we simply cannot control, anticipate, or change.

You can beat yourself up all you want, but why should you be stressing about it if everyone else can’t control those factors?

Focus on what you can control.

Focus on what can make you better.

Failure is where self-doubt is at its highest.

We naturally internalize everything around us into one negative ball of doubt that will rage against us.

We won’t have control of that energy, but you can’t go down with it, either.

Is this your last chance?

Are you kidding me?

Accepting failure is your first chance to do something different, try something new, and make progress toward your goals.

The only time it’s your last chance is when you throw in the towel.

For everything else, this is the first day of something new.

At one point or another, we will all succumb to the self-doubt that swells within us because of not reaching our goal.

Look at this as an opportunity to begin round 2 of the fight

We’ll call ourselves failures and want to hide away, never to return.

Someone will always get mad or be disappointed despite the efforts we have put in.

If we can escape that heat of the moment and the maelstrom of emotions, we can come to see that the game isn’t over.

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In fact, it’s just beginning.

Acceptance of failure prepares you for “round two.”

Fear, self-doubt, and loathing hope that we’ll stay down, hoping we won’t recover and try again.

It’s time to prove them wrong.

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  1. Danielle Dahl, Managing Editor

    March 6, 2023 at 12:40 PM

    When we are in the thick of struggling to be successful, it is so hard to be positive. However, 3, 5, or even 10 years of trying to reach your goals teaches you valuable skills and lessons. You never know how much longer you had to keep going to get where you wanted to be. Every time I feel like a failure, I think of Stephen King. I imagine him hanging rejection letter after rejection letter on his wall (he started with a push pin, but received so many he had to use a giant nail). What if he had quit after the first five rejection letters? The first 10 or 20? What if that man had never written another book? It is just wild. I am sure when he was teaching and working a part-time job and writing on the side, he contemplated if it was all worth it.

    Don’t give up and keep going if you feel you are on the path you are meant to be on!

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