5 Ways to Believe in Yourself When No One Else Does
May 5, 2019 12:00 AM EST | 7 min read
If you believe in yourself, read no further.
Most of us, however, know how hard and lengthy this process is.
And when you feel like you’re all alone in your struggles, finding the strength to go on can feel like an insurmountable challenge.
Nobody’s saying it’s going to be easy.
But believe me when I tell you that are ways of trusting yourself, even when nobody else will.
How to believe in yourself when you are surrounded by haters and doubters
1. Are You Truly Alone?
When you’re faced with a daunting challenge, and you feel like the whole world is against you, the first thing you should ask yourself whether you truly are alone.
Friends and loved ones might seem like their doubting your ability to accomplish your goals, but maybe they just don’t understand what you’re going through.
Maybe you are focusing too much on your own goals, and the people who are close to you just feel neglected.
Listening to other people’s worries and struggles might give you some perspective on your own path, and it’s going to take your mind off your troubles.
Helping others can be the most rewarding way to bolster your self-confidence.
When you find that the people around you seem dismissive, take the time to listen to their doubts.
You’re probably going to find out more about them, and help them become aware of their own issues.
Even gossiping, in small doses, seems to have some positive effects on self-confidence.
When you find it difficult to keep believing in yourself, consider whether you are your own worst enemy.
Even people who have every reason to feel confident about themselves sometimes experience a lack of self-confidence.
This occurs when they don’t believe in their abilities to get the task done.
In these situations, it may be hard to accept constructive feedback from your friends or family.
It may feel like no one supports you.
However, this may not be the case.
2. Pick Up a Hobby
If you feel like you aren’t making any progress in achieving your goals, you should try investing some time in a new hobby.
There are some great hobbies that will help you boost your self-esteem.
Setting out low-risk, short-term goals, such as learning how to play a few chords on the guitar, or mastering the basics of a new language is going to make you feel like you’ve accomplished something, even when everything else seems to be at a stand-still.
When it comes to long-term goals, part of your frustration might stem from the fact that you can’t really see the result of your actions.
Hobbies, however, can have clear, immediate results.
It gives you something you can anchor your self-respect to.
Hobbies are also a great way to make mistakes.
There are plenty of reasons why you should embrace your mistakes.
Since the risks involved are minor, starting a new, fun activity is going to give you the perfect environment to get used to minor failures, and how to use them as a learning experience.
Believing in yourself is going to be easy once you understand that everything you do, you do for a reason, and that even minor mishaps are part of your own unique style of tackling tasks.
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3. Focus on Solutions
You might be tempted to think that breaking down problems into tiny bits, and then analyzing every bit is the best way to reach a solution.
While considering each problem carefully is a very important step in the process of fixing it, you might run the risk of losing sight of what’s most important, the solution.
For minor problems, the solution can be as simple as shifting your attention to something else for a while.
Focusing too much on a problem is going to make it seem larger, and more complex than it actually is.
You’re bound to feel disheartened after spending days mulling over the same idea.
And, what’s more, some problems are simply beyond your control.
Focus instead on finding solutions.
These you can control, and you’re going to find it easier to keep believing in yourself when you see the yourself actually getting to work.
So, say you’re looking for a new job.
Instead of focusing on all the things that can go wrong, you’re better off doing some research on what the job requirements are.
There are countless online resources than can give you all of the information you require.
After that, you can go about learning the skills you lack, or adapting the ones you already have.
4. Develop a Personal Mantra
Having a personal mantra is going to remind of who you are, even when the going gets though.
It’s going to remind you that you are not alone in your struggles, and that there are plenty of other who went through what you are going, and came out on top in the end.
Developing a personal mantra is not as simple as repeating some words that sound well.
They have to meaningful to you, and it may take a while until you find the right combination that can work as your own mantra.
You’re going to have to start somewhere, and often the most popular ones are popular because they are so powerful.
But ultimately, your mantra has to be suited to your needs, and wants, so make it as personal as you need it to be.
And don’t fret if you don’t find it immediately.
It will come to you, eventually.
5. See Yourself in the Bigger Picture
If you want to believe in yourself you have to look further than your dreams.
You have to able to see yourself as part of a bigger picture.
Consider how your plans and goals an affect those around you, not just yourself.
You may be surprised to find out how much other people care about you, and how much they rely on you.
You’ll that your actions have a ripple effect, and while the results may seem minor to you right now, you’ll notice they have a greater impact if you put them in perspective.
And likewise, all of your bad days, and less than optimal outcomes are going to be put into perspective as well.
We have a tendency to remember bad experiences much more vividly than positive ones.
And it’s a tendency you’re going to have to work against, if you want to keep believing in yourself, even when others seem like they don’t.
Because it’s the force of positivity that’s going to keep you going.
Putting things into perspective is going to help you realize that things aren’t all that bad, in the grander scheme of things.
Find the strength to believe in yourself
Finding the strength to believe in yourself is a personal challenge everyone must face at some point in their lives.
It’s a difficult task, especially if you feel like nobody support you.
Self-confidence comes from within, and there’s only so much the people around you can do.
Ultimately, it is something you must find on your own, with or without other people’s help
So don’t expect to get your self-confidence from somebody else.
They probably have their own challenges.
You are the only one who knows all the details of your plans, and who knows exactly how much time, and effort they need to invest in them to see them through.
If you are truly confident in your own strength to carry out your plans, you’ll notice everyone else is going to follow suit.
That’s when you will be able to truly believe in yourself.
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