We must face many uncomfortable truths about life and love, as neither is always positive.
Love, a concept that has captivated audiences from the pages of classic literature to the silver screen, often seems like an idyllic tale spun with roses and grand gestures.
Yet, nestled within the heartwarming scenes of movies like The Notebook lies a stark truth: love is not always a flawless fairytale.
In fact, life and love can often resemble a horror story or a complicated drama.
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Uncomfortable truths about life and love
This eye-opening article reveals the uncomfortable realities behind the romanticized idea of life and love.
Prepare to shatter the illusion and delve into the unfiltered truths about life and love.
Change is important to every living thing.
It constantly allows evolution to improve from one generation to the next.
It allows and increases the ability of all life to survive and thrive in this world.
Change is a constant, not a variable.
Our world and everything in it is constantly changing.
Being human, you must change with it (to some degree or another).
Otherwise, you will always be at odds with everything and everyone around you.
Some people, few I would think, can go against the grain for the duration of their lives.
They can stem the tide of change and live as well as they can in solitude and isolation, clinging to the past.
The butter churn, phonograph, cassette tape, and even the record player can now be found in museums!
They have all been replaced by more efficient tools that change has brought about.
This is a testament to the old saying, “Time waits for no one.”
2. The illusion of control
How long do we play in its shadow before we realize that something or someone is always standing behind the curtain, pulling the strings?
Like the wizard, if you will, telling us that the great Oz has spoken!
The longer you labor under this illusion, the greater your disappointments will be.
Including what occurs in nature, there is little in life that you have control over.
This is the simple fact that most things you plan and do depend on more than one person’s actions.
The amount of control you can exercise is limited to things about and by yourself.
Once there is the energy needed from any outside source, your control is gone.
Now, you will be at the whim of the circumstances you find yourself under.
Age and wisdom teach us to see the world how it is.
Enabling us to shine a light through the shadow and illuminate who or what is pulling the strings from behind that curtain.
To know the difference between the few things we control and many things we don’t.
3. Life is a lonely road…
Even if you have someone to love and travel with.
You look through the eyes you were given at birth, from your first breath to your last, no matter how many days may come in between.
Behind these eyes, you make every decision, form every opinion and dream, and formulate your thoughts.
The farther you travel along the road of life, the farther away in thought and experience you grow from the generation behind you, becoming an afterthought to the young, a relic, and eventually a burden.
Even if you marry, have a large family, and live to be a hundred and seventeen, you will find it possible to be alone in a room full of people.
This uncomfortable truth is perhaps the most sobering of them when you meet it face to face.
Whether young or old, rich or poor, happy or sad, it will cut through your clouded view of life and lay bare the truth that life is a lonely road.
4. Disappointment, life’s full of them.
The sooner you realize you’re not the only one who has to deal with them, the better off you’ll be.
When you are young, disappointment can feel like the end of the world.
Your heart will ache, and your mind falls from the dizzying height of your expectation.
You had your heart set on something, be it something physical or an idea.
It doesn’t matter; at the last moment, it’s torn from within your reach by forces you have no control over.
The letdown you feel is enormous because you had your hopes so high.
Being young and naïve, you were ill-prepared for the possible outcome someone of greater years warned you about.
Not once did you consider it a real possibility.
Fast forward a few dozen years and the situation will look much different to your experienced eye.
By this point in life, it’s as if you have developed the ability to see into the future.
In reality, you’ll have learned where to place your expectations based on years of having seen and done things your younger self could only learn by the lesson of disappointment.
(This applies equally to life and love, though not always in that order)
5. Most often, love isn’t the same as it’s portrayed in a fairy tale.
Initially, it sweeps you off your feet, wraps you in its warm embrace, and weaves you into a cocoon that shields you from the rest of the world and keeps your heart on fire.
It is the single most binding force two people can share; without it, our species would fade from existence like many others.
It is both beautiful and cruel, luring us from the safety of our solitary life into a relationship where our soul is naked and exposed, open and vulnerable to the whim of our partner.
No matter what the signpost says about the danger ahead, we ignore it and drive fully into the unknown.
The years spent in love shroud us with happiness and comfort that we would have never known had we not found it.
They also bring the pain we must bear for the sake of our partner, the tears we must shed for ourselves.
Ultimately, we must watch from their bedside as our loved ones disappear.
Some go quietly into the night, never feeling a thing as they slip from this world into the next; others suffer in pain we can’t help them bear their dying breath.
When you finally let go and wish them well on their journey into the next life, you promise them that you’ll find them when you get there, no matter how long it takes.
We all want it in one form or another, and most people settle for far less than they could achieve.
Being genuinely accepted for who you are by your friends, family, coworkers, or peers is difficult and sometimes feels impossible.
Being part of the pack is our end goal, to find a place where we are secure in our position and rank in society’s pecking order.
To do this and not compromise your values and beliefs is an important truth, to not place acceptance from others above acceptance of yourself.
People will try to put you into a mold and accept you only if you like the same team or shop at the same stores.
To make you more like themselves, boost their ego, and promote their brand as being somehow better.
Always remain true to yourself, even if it means being accepted only by your best friend Rover.
This is probably the most uncomfortable truth about life (and love) we must face.
It’s not our death that strips away the veil that shields our eyes from this grim reality, enabling us to go about our lives without continually pondering the Reaper.
The death of those around us brings our mortality into view.
We remember it like it was just yesterday when we last saw them, what they were doing, what they told us, and how we felt when they shared stories of our collective past.
Once they’re gone, we realize the permanence of the grave.
No longer can you look them up or run into them by chance.
Regret about past deeds or debts comes into full focus in our minds.
If only you had known you would never see them again, things you wanted to say run through your mind and settle into your consciousness.
Which of these truths about life resonated with you most?
Many of these truths seem easy to agree with on paper (or, in this case, your screen), but they can be hard to apply in real-life situations.
Accepting change is inevitable, and our control is limited can be daunting.
We all know death is inevitable, but we don’t like to think about it.
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