Facts of Life to Stop Struggling With and Accept

In life, some facts are rather easy to accept.

Among them, at least for me, are:

  • You can’t change someone else no matter how much you want to,
  • Laundry and dishes will never do themselves
  • Monday, the most dreaded work day, will always follow Sunday, the eternal day of rest.

However, there are facts that many people, including myself, have found much harder to swallow.

Here they are, as well as some things you can do to appreciate them for their realities.

Happiness Is a Choice

How often have you said, “I’ll be happy when…?”

Maybe it’s when you pay off your debt, finally lose your excess weight, or buy the car or home of your dreams.

Whatever follows your “when,” you’ve basically decided that your happiness lies somewhere in the future.

Essentially, it depends on whether certain conditions are met.

Unfortunately, this isn’t how happiness works.

Happiness isn’t something you get; it’s something that comes from inside yourself.

It’s an emotion that resides deep inside your soul.

Everyone already has it, which makes it your choice whether you will allow it to come out.

Of course, you could blame your feelings of unhappiness on your predicament, your family, or your friends.

However, the reality is that you are the only one who can make yourself happy.

Besides, plenty of people in worse positions than you or I manage to be happy.

If they can do it, then I believe that we can do it too!

How?

In a blog by the University of California, Berkeley, here are some effective happiness-inducing options to consider:

  • Connect with others socially to create a wider network of people who can provide support when we need it.
  • Regularly take the time to count your blessings, the things that you’re thankful for in your life.
  • Be kind to others, a simple action that makes you feel better about yourself.
  • Take care of your body by exercising regularly and prioritizing sleep, as it’s hard to feel happy when you don’t feel well physically.
  • Stay in the moment, leaving yesterday in the past and not worrying about tomorrow.

You’ll Never Get Where You Want to Be If You Don’t Put in the Work

I blame our society for this, as daily news stories imply that someone reached their goals seemingly overnight—almost as if it was by luck.

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But anyone who’s ever tried to do something worth doing knows otherwise.

Results almost always come after months, if not years, of hard, brain and body-numbing work.

Understandably, we can easily get caught up in the “get rich fast” or “lose weight quick” schemes.

However, once we come to realize that there’s simply no substitute for hard work, we quit banging our heads against the wall.

Eventually, we realize that taking this approach doesn’t deliver long-term results.

We can also finally stop blaming ourselves for failing.

The real failure lies with the people and businesses pushing unachievable dreams.

This requires changing your mindset, so you’re in it for the long haul versus trying to take a shortcut.

There is no shortcut to true success.

In fact, say that to yourself right now.

There is no shortcut for true success.

Now, keep on saying it until your brain starts to believe it.

You can also put this phrase on a sticky note, place it on your computer, or write it outside your journal.

Now, you will see it every day.

Put it somewhere where you will see it often so that quick-fix promises from people do not sideline you.

They likely want you to buy their products or services!

Their promises will be broken because they’re just not true.

If Someone Treats You Badly, It’s Because You Let Them

This has been one of the most difficult facts of life for me to accept.

I always used to think that if someone treated me badly, it was on them, not me.

While there is some truth to that, as everyone is responsible for their actions, I had to force myself to realize it was up to me.

I could let them continue mistreating me or remove them from my life.

I didn’t have to just sit and take it.

Neither option is easy, as it’s tough to be someone else’s whipping post.

Yet, it’s also tough to let some people go.

This is especially true if the person treating you badly is a parent, another relative, or spouse.

It’s not always easy to just walk away when it is one of these people who are front and center in your life.

However, it is necessary if you want to have a better life.

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Look at it this way: if you let someone continue to treat you badly, you’re destined to face a lifetime of disrespect.

Yet, if you draw a line in the sand and say, “No more!” you may initially be uncomfortable.

Just know you’re also stopping any further abuse.

This means you can enjoy higher-quality days for the rest of your life.

To help you set these healthy boundaries and prevent others from mistreating you, you should know a few things.

Dr. Susan Biali with Psychology Today suggests that you first understand that the other person will likely exhibit anger at your new, lower threshold.

That’s a normal response, so don’t let it catch you off guard.

Additionally, create a solid support system.

Then you will have people you can go to if you’re ready to give in and let the other person walk over you again.

Of course, if the person is physically abusive, then contacting a domestic violence advocate or the police is a great first step too.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7, making them a great resource if this is the case.

Whether You Succeed or Fail Is Entirely Up To You

When I worked in the courts, I repeatedly saw the lack of responsibility people take when it comes to their lives.

Blame seemed to be placed on everyone else but themselves.

It was rare to find someone who said, “Yes. I am where I am completely because of me and my actions.”

It’s the truth, though, and understanding this fact of life can change the course of your journey.

It is 100% up to you whether you succeed or fail in life.

You’re the one who can take the actions that will lead you either way.

Blaming someone else for your failures is simply avoiding the fact that you made a wrong choice somewhere down the line.

Before you start throwing your “but what if” scenarios at me, I am more than willing to concede that certain people and circumstances can make it harder to succeed.

If you have unsupportive parents, for instance, then it may be harder for you to reach the levels you want to reach.

However, it doesn’t make it impossible!

If you want something bad enough, you’ll find a way to get it.

One of my favorite sayings is that, in life, you have two choices: make changes or make excuses.

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Do the first, and you’re destined for success, even if it doesn’t look like you initially thought.

Do the second, however; failure is the only outcome because you won’t even try.

You’ll have given up before you even started.

If You Want Life to Be Different, Then You Have to Do Different Things

This life fact is one that I see people struggle with in a perpetual cycle.

Specifically when it comes to losing weight or getting into shape since I am in the health and wellness field.

Most often, this involves trying a diet, losing a few pounds, and then, over time, gaining those pounds back…and then some.

Then, when they’re feeling ready to lose weight again, they return to that same diet.

And they go back to those same results.

The reality is if you want life to be different for you than it is now, then you have to do things differently.

This requires trying new tactics until you find the one that works for you.

Or, as Thomas Edison stated, it is reminding yourself that “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

If you’re ready for different results than you’ve ever gotten before, then it’s time to go outside your comfort zone and do something new.

To make the best of this suggestion, take some time to research your options.

This will help you make the most intelligent decision that you can.

After all, blindly trying things and then being upset when they don’t work isn’t going to get you where you want to be.

Staying with the weight loss example would mean researching what programs are available.

How do they work, and how much do they cost?

Which one will fit your personality and your lifestyle?

By doing your homework up front, you’re likely to get better results.

Ultimately, this means different results than you’ve ever gotten before.

What other facts of life would you add?

I’d love to hear your thoughts about these facts of life and any others you think should be added to the list!

Feel free to share them in the comment section below!

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