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How to Know If You’re Making the Right Decision

Published on February 22, 2019 8:45 AM EST
How to Know If You’re Making the Right Decision

Not sure if you’re making the right decisions in your life? Below are some tell-tale signs that you’ve chosen the right path.

Life is filled with decisions. Every moment of every day we are making different choices. We choose what we wear every day, what we eat, and what we say.

How to Know If You’re Making the Right Decision

When making the simple decisions in life we find it easy to recognize when we’ve made the right or wrong one.

Say you chose to wear a dress to work one day. Then, you step outside and it’s freezing out. You know you made the wrong decision.

You decide to tell your co-worker what you think of their new haircut. They smile and thank you. Congratulations- you made the right decision.

The immediate response from the environment around you serves as the indicator for whether or not you made the right or wrong decision.

How to Know When You’re Making the Right Decision- 4 Tell-Tale Signs

What about those big decisions? Ending or beginning a relationship, starting a new career or quitting your job all together, or starting a family. How do we know if we make the right choice in these situations?

My first thought is to say that you can’t know if they’re right unless you can tell the future. Until the other day when something happened that made me realize that the big decision I recently made was most definitely the right one.

Recently I made the frightening decision to quit my job. Why is this so frightening? Because I do not have anything solid lined up to go to next.

I’m also currently living in California, on the complete other side of the country from my family and friends, meaning I have to move my entire life cross-country for the second time in the past 6 months.

Every time I think about that I feel like a train wreck and wonder if I’m making the right choice. Until I go to work, go through the motions, come home, and pray that time goes fast until it’s time to go to sleep because I just want every day to end.

I’m here to share with you the 4 signs that showed me that I made the right decision.

Enjoyment is No Longer Enjoyable

We were running an event at work the other day that was a huge success. Normally this would make me very excited and think “this is why I do what I do.” This time was different. That thought never crossed my mind. I just kept waiting for the day to be over even though I was doing something that would normally fuel my fire.

Maybe your dates with your significant other that you normally look forward to are started to seem like a chore. This is one sign that ending the relationship was the right thing to do.

Or maybe you’re on the other side of things and you are no longer enjoying your time alone. Asking that girl on a date was the right thing to do.

Excitement Turned into Exhaustion

Let’s keep this one simple. If you have found that you are exhausted from having to “get excited” to go to work, hang out with your significant other, or any other daily activity that should bring you joy and you’ve decided to stop that cycle, then you’ve made the right decision.

Uncertainty Does Not Trigger Anxiety

To leave a solid situation without setting the foundation for my next step is completely out of character for me. However, the uncertainty of what is to come next does not give me a constant pit in my stomach. Yes, I have my freak-out moments, but those are very fleeting.

Instead I experience more comfort in the fact that what’s next is up to me- and it’s anything but what I’m currently doing.

When the thought of staying in your current situation brings you more anxiety than the thought of removing yourself from that state, you know you’ve made the right decision.

It Just Doesn’t Make Sense Anymore

When making any decision, I like to align it with my top three priorities: health, relationships, and career. If taking on a new task or starting a relationship would compromise my health, jeopardize any other relationships I had, (friends, family,etc) or deter me from my career goals I would not commit.

What are yours? If where you are now in life does not enhance your priorities, or worse, compromises them and you have taken the steps to remove yourself from your situation, then you know you’ve made the right decision.

You Did it Because you Wanted to

Not because you thought it was what you “should do.” Not because you felt that it was morally right. Simply because you felt in your heart that this was what you needed to do to be happy.

Are you fully happy with your life? What big decisions have you made lately? If you haven’t made any kind of change, take a chance to move closer to your happiness. I can guarantee you that once you do, you will see these signs appear in your life as well.

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    shaghayegh

    September 29, 2019 at 10:53 AM

    Hi, personally i have been through a lot. i had a really important exam witch could tell me if i can go to a good university or not . i had the knowledge but i didnt believe my self and i always felt like i am not good enough that actually ended up with worst result that i could ever get. now i have to go to a very normal university and i dont want to … its been around 3 months since i have felt happy and i have been crying nearly every day since my exams day and now i dont have enough motivation to study for that exam again and i dont want to go to the university that i am going right now either . i dont know what am i suppose to do now. please help me if you can……..

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    Cameron

    June 14, 2019 at 1:03 AM

    Recently I’ve been struggling to make a decision in my life, that will change my future. I’m somewhat happy where I’m at now, but I’m missing a purpose. I bounce back and forth between multiple options that I have, but I’m scared to make the right one. My friend once told me, that my biggest flaw, is my fear of the future. I’m also scared of change. I just wish it was easier to make these decisions.

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    Teresa

    May 7, 2019 at 5:21 PM

    I am in nursing school and hate, I feel stress all the time and tired but feel like I will be letting everyone down if I left I am so stress I don’t know what to do

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      Sally

      July 20, 2019 at 6:56 AM

      HI, I can see why you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. However, you and only you can make decisions for your life. In saying that, I feel that if you had something to follow as a back up, and work towards, it would be easier to leave your present situation, and easier to explain to your loved ones, why you left, and that you have another plan in site and/or on the move. It may help relieve everyone involved. GOOD LUCK!

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    Lynn

    April 3, 2019 at 11:09 PM

    Almost one year ago, my husband and I made a life changing decision and we took jobs in Montana. We are from Michigan originally. Our lives we falling apart financially and emotionally. So we got an offer to go and work for the summer in Montana. It was amazing. The job I took was really rough. I worked 90 hours a week. It was becoming a health issue for me. We decided to leave for that reason. Came back to Michigan for Hope’s to get back to normal. There is no normal. I am extremely depressed, my husband is too. We went from a 4 bedroom home. To live with friends. We have nothing left. I found myself regretting leaving Montana. I think we left because we were scared of the unknown. Now, we just got an offer to go back to Montana. I want to. I was so happy there. But, I wonder if we are making the right decision to go. We have nothing and I am afraid to make the wrong decision. I want our life to be what we had when we first went there. We were both so happy to be away from what people call “normal”. I don’t like it here in Michigan. I want to go back to Montana. I just don’t know what the right decision is.

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    Beth

    February 21, 2019 at 4:09 PM

    I have just changed my job to leave my previous employer. I feel like I’m leaving a family behind however most days I get bombarded with stress, shouting and demoralising comments, some days are good. I feel awful leaving them because I know they need me however, moving to a new job allows me to do what I love and enjoy. I felt depressed, anxious and worried to go into work most days.
    I did so much for their business but I feel it’s time for me to go and it has made me so sad. I don’t know if I’ve done the right thing…

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      Fabio

      April 3, 2019 at 12:24 AM

      In my opinion, you did the right choice. It’s good when you help others, but most importantly, YOU need to be happy TO. Need to take care and happier of you first, that way you can make your day and those who surround you a better day!

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      sally

      July 20, 2019 at 6:59 AM

      I am in total agreement with the above reply! But I do understand why this is causing you so much anxiety however, your happiness must come first! Good luck in your decision!

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