How to Know If You’re Making the Right Decision
Life is filled with decisions.
Every moment of every day, we are making different choices.
We choose what we wear every day, what we eat, and what we say.
How do you know if you are making the right decisions, though?
When making simple decisions in life, we find it easy to recognize when we’ve made the right or wrong one.
Say you wore a dress to work one day.
Then, you step outside, and it’s freezing out.
You know you made the wrong decision.
You decide to tell your co-worker what you think of their new haircut.
They smile and thank you.
Congratulations – you made the right decision.
The immediate response from the environment around you serves as the indicator of whether you made the right or wrong decision.
Still not sure if you’re making the right decisions in your life?
Below are some telltale signs that you’ve chosen the right path.
4 Clear Signs You’re Making the Right Decision
What about those big decisions like ending or beginning a relationship, starting a new career (or quitting your job altogether), or starting a family?
How do we know if we make the right choice in these situations?
My first thought was to say that you can’t know if they’re right unless you can predict the future.
Until the other day, when something happened, that made me realize that the big decision I recently made was most definitely the right one.
Recently, I made the frightening decision to quit my job.
Why is this so frightening?
Because I have nothing solid lined up to go to next.
I’m also currently living in California, on the other side of the country from my family and friends.
This means I have to move my entire life cross-country for the second time in the past six months.
Thinking about that had me feeling like a train wreck and wondering if I was making the right choice.
Ultimately, these four signs showed me I had made the right choice.
Enjoyment is No Longer Enjoyable
We were running an event at work the other day that was a tremendous success.
Normally this would excite me and leave me thinking, “this is why I do what I do.”
This time was different.
That thought never crossed my mind.
I just kept waiting for the day to be over, even though I was doing something that would normally fuel my fire.
Maybe your dates with your significant other, which you normally look forward to, now seem like a chore.
This could be a sign that there is something missing in your relationship.
It could be time to end it, or put in some work to make things better.
Maybe you’re on the other side of things and you are no longer enjoying your time alone.
Asking that girl on a date was the right thing to do.
Excitement Turned into Exhaustion
You will also enjoy our article on ethical dilemma.
Let’s keep this one simple.
If you have found that you are exhausted from having to “get excited” to go to work, hang out with your significant other, or any other daily activity that should bring you joy and you’ve stopped that cycle, then you’ve made the right decision.
Uncertainty Does Not Trigger Anxiety
To leave a solid situation without setting the foundation for my next step is completely out of character for me.
However, the uncertainty of what is coming next does not give me a constant pit in my stomach.
Yes, I have my freak-out moments, but those are very fleeting.
Instead, I experience more comfort because what’s next is up to me- and it’s anything but what I’m currently doing.
When the thought of staying in your current situation brings you more anxiety than the thought of removing yourself from that state, you know you’ve made the right decision.
It Just Doesn’t Make Sense Anymore
When deciding, I like to align it with my top three priorities: health, relationships, and career.
If taking on a new task or starting a relationship would compromise my health, jeopardize any other relationships I had (like those with friends, family, etc.) or deter me from my career goals, I would not commit.
What are yours?
If where you are now in life does not enhance your priorities, or worse, compromises them and you have taken the steps to remove yourself from your situation, then you know you’ve made the right decision.
You Did it Because you Wanted to
Not because you thought it was what you “should do.”
Not because you felt it was morally right.
Simply because you felt in your heart that this was what you needed to do to be happy.
Are you fully happy with your life?
What big decisions have you made lately?
If you haven’t made any kind of change, take a chance to move closer to your happiness.
I can guarantee you that once you do, you will see these signs appear in your life as well.
Dara
February 27, 2023 at 10:09 PM
I’m quitting my job soon and though I had been thinking of doing so for a while, now that its inminent kinda scares me a little, but at the same time gives me great joy to finally have some time to do stuff i couldnt do before. Though at times it saddens me due to the fact that I got really fond of my job and people I’ve met there, so i guess it’ll be hard to get detached from that routine and lifestyle and it’s that change that scares me the most. The crazy thing is that despite having that sad feeling, I feel so at ease. Reading this arcticle made me realize that this choice is closer to being right that any other thing, and I deeply hope so.
Faith
December 13, 2019 at 10:41 AM
Long story short, my life seems to be cyclical;I work the same type of short term job, I go back to my ex and everything is miserable and I’m left day dreaming of running away. Discontent would be an understatement. This past Saturday was my last day at my most recent job and I had recently left my part time bartending doing job around Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving I also found out my ex was cheating, again, and without protection! So, I’ve packed my things and lined up a few interviews and will be moving to Houston from Miami on Monday! I have not felt any knots in my stomach, just some nervous anticipation. I’m still not sure if this is the right decision, but it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. Just start over someplace different, where I can actually afford to live on my own away from everything I’ve known. Even if it is not a permanent thing, I just wanna try it out and see what’s in the unknown. I guess I won’t know if this decision is good until I make my way across state lines!
shaghayegh
September 29, 2019 at 10:53 AM
Hi, personally i have been through a lot. i had a really important exam witch could tell me if i can go to a good university or not . i had the knowledge but i didnt believe my self and i always felt like i am not good enough that actually ended up with worst result that i could ever get. now i have to go to a very normal university and i dont want to … its been around 3 months since i have felt happy and i have been crying nearly every day since my exams day and now i dont have enough motivation to study for that exam again and i dont want to go to the university that i am going right now either . i dont know what am i suppose to do now. please help me if you can……..
Cameron
June 14, 2019 at 1:03 AM
Recently I’ve been struggling to make a decision in my life, that will change my future. I’m somewhat happy where I’m at now, but I’m missing a purpose. I bounce back and forth between multiple options that I have, but I’m scared to make the right one. My friend once told me, that my biggest flaw, is my fear of the future. I’m also scared of change. I just wish it was easier to make these decisions.
Teresa
May 7, 2019 at 5:21 PM
I am in nursing school and hate, I feel stress all the time and tired but feel like I will be letting everyone down if I left I am so stress I don’t know what to do
Sally
July 20, 2019 at 6:56 AM
HI, I can see why you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. However, you and only you can make decisions for your life. In saying that, I feel that if you had something to follow as a back up, and work towards, it would be easier to leave your present situation, and easier to explain to your loved ones, why you left, and that you have another plan in site and/or on the move. It may help relieve everyone involved. GOOD LUCK!
Lynn
April 3, 2019 at 11:09 PM
Almost one year ago, my husband and I made a life changing decision and we took jobs in Montana. We are from Michigan originally. Our lives we falling apart financially and emotionally. So we got an offer to go and work for the summer in Montana. It was amazing. The job I took was really rough. I worked 90 hours a week. It was becoming a health issue for me. We decided to leave for that reason. Came back to Michigan for Hope’s to get back to normal. There is no normal. I am extremely depressed, my husband is too. We went from a 4 bedroom home. To live with friends. We have nothing left. I found myself regretting leaving Montana. I think we left because we were scared of the unknown. Now, we just got an offer to go back to Montana. I want to. I was so happy there. But, I wonder if we are making the right decision to go. We have nothing and I am afraid to make the wrong decision. I want our life to be what we had when we first went there. We were both so happy to be away from what people call “normal”. I don’t like it here in Michigan. I want to go back to Montana. I just don’t know what the right decision is.
Beth
February 21, 2019 at 4:09 PM
I have just changed my job to leave my previous employer. I feel like I’m leaving a family behind however most days I get bombarded with stress, shouting and demoralising comments, some days are good. I feel awful leaving them because I know they need me however, moving to a new job allows me to do what I love and enjoy. I felt depressed, anxious and worried to go into work most days.
I did so much for their business but I feel it’s time for me to go and it has made me so sad. I don’t know if I’ve done the right thing…
Fabio
April 3, 2019 at 12:24 AM
In my opinion, you did the right choice. It’s good when you help others, but most importantly, YOU need to be happy TO. Need to take care and happier of you first, that way you can make your day and those who surround you a better day!
sally
July 20, 2019 at 6:59 AM
I am in total agreement with the above reply! But I do understand why this is causing you so much anxiety however, your happiness must come first! Good luck in your decision!